Who are really care?

Lying on the sick bed, his eyes were opened. He can hear each voices around him but he can't turn his head or even move any parts of his body towards the source of the voice. He just looked at me. When I looked into his eyes, I knew that he wanted to speak and jump like the other normal persons. He is a young man who should catch for his dream outside and not to stay here, doing nothing. Yet, it was planned by God. In this young age, he had stroke attack that killed every pieces of his dream, leaving him in vegetative state.

His wife was with him all the time in the hospital, accompanied him and gave every single thing that he might need. I was touched to see her sincerity and love to this man. She talked to him and treated him like a normal person but she knew that her husband would never can respond to her again. I can see she is as good as a nurse though she is not a nurse who fed him via nasogastric tube and positioned him every four hourly.

I guess this is a pure love which every couple swayed on before get married. If one of the couple fall sick, another spouse should take care of him/her. In reality, most people will choose to run away from this responsibility and see a stroke patient as burden.

There were no other family members with him throughout hospital except his faithful wife. Many people were wondering why his other family members didn't come to visit him and left the responsibility to his wife all alone. A man who knew this man told a story to me when I asked where was his other family members. He said few months ago there wasn't only the wife take care of him. Her mother-in-law or the mother to this man had also came many times to visit him in the hospital. For the sake of the wife, she persuaded her daughter-in-law to leave her son and find other man since she didn't have any child because she knew her son will never be the same as before again and didn't want her daughter-in-law to suffer in this young age. However, the wife got upset and strongly against this. Then, her mother-in-law had no other better idea to make her leave her son by cutting off the source of financial to her. 

When the financial was cut off, the wife still didn't give up her husband easily. She still fought for their love and didn't leave her husband as what her mother-in-law may think of. She found a job to support her husband's hospital fees. From that moment on, she didn't allow any other family members include her mother-in-law to approach him.

Tears rolled from my heart when I heard this. We never know what other people has undergone until we really listen and know more about them. People who really love each other will never leave each other alone though one of them may fall sick. For some people, stroke patient is hopeless but for the wife, he is the hope and reason for her life.

If the mother-in-law really care about the wife, why should she cut off the financial support when she knew her daughter-in-law need support in the toughest time? If she really care about her son, don't she should feel proud and happy because her son has found his true love?

If the wife really care about his husband, why should she stop a mother from approaching her son? 

So, who are really care?

The answers are not from what we see but it is from what they feel. People need time to heal and support from others to undergo this test. If we are really care, we should bless every people in their hard time and not to judge them.